I continue to search high and low for the existence of sisterhood! Sisterhood where are you? I’m sure you exist, or have existed at some time or another, but in a time where sisterhood relationships are seemingly needed the most, especially among african-american women, you have hidden yourself. Is it because there seems to be a shortage of GOOD MEN period? Black, white, or any other ethnic group..lol. Has the competition stepped up a notch, therefore there is no time to make friends? I’m just amazed at how many times I come in contact with women who say, “I don’t hang with females, too much drama.”
I have personally never been without a close “girlfriend” in my life. At every stage of my life, I have always had a best friend who was right there with me. Mainly because I was quick to listen, slow to speak, and made it my mission to always tell the truth to them, good or bad. I have found that though people may be upset with you at the moment, they tend to get over it and the bond becomes even that much tighter. In my lifetime, I’m currently 36yrs old, I have not had one person who I was bff’s with that I don’t or can’t talk to today.
Currently I have two people in my life who share my life as best friends, and it’s funny because though I met them at different times, they both were pretty stand offish (saying they don’t hang around females), and I told both of them that if they would just open themselves up, I would show them what having a best friend is all about. They both trusted me to do that, and I have been best friends with one for over 10yrs, and the other around 8yrs. Now that doesn’t mean that arguments have not happened or things that put strain on the relationships, it just means that we are all committed to working those things out. People must understand, that some people come into your life for a season, and some come for a lifetime, but no matter the time length, what God puts together let no man put asunder. That’s not just for those who get married, that’s for any relationship that God brings together. Those relationship are not to be broken by any “man” (as in human), but instead it must be God who let’s you know if the time is up for that relationship. That way you get everything out of that person, or relationship that was intended from the beginning.
I recently was talking to my twitter family about the love being shown to Chris Brown and Rihanna post the domestic situation. I have seen videos of the Industry guys showing love to Chris and showing support, understanding that he is young, and “made a mistake”…but not so much for Rihanna. Someone did remind me of the show that Oprah did with guest star Tyra Banks about the fallout. A lot of the responses I got back from twitter was people saying that Rihanna probably caused it on herself by hitting Chris first, and that she seems to be doing fine. I realize that ALL of that may be true, and I’m not denying that, all I’m saying is that she is YOUNG as well, and she still needs TRUE friendship from other females. Most women, (with legitimate) cases never come forward because they have to bear the brunt of hatred not only from males, but other females as well. Ladies simply put: Am I my sisters keeper?
